Alrighty i am going to need help on this from both the guys and girls. Here it goes. There is this girl i really like but i have a really hard time getting a convo started with her. With other girls i don't have that problem. But with her I do and i don't have any idea. What I'm really asking is whats a good way to get a convo going with this girl. In general what do most girls like to talk about? And does staring at a girl in the eyes and smiling at her really work... thanks guys

p.s. I didn't mean for this to sound like a "how to get a girl" board...I just want to know how to start up a conversation

Well, the words "Hi How are you" always works with me.

My suggestion is to yell "Dodge the flying fish!" but thats just an idea. This is comming from a guy that has a required weekly slap.

I like to be blunt.. so be blunt.. even if you feel like a retard. The first thing you ask is "how was your day" and then you responed "thats awesome to hear." say it with a good cheerful voice..

yes making small talk always works, then build up too asking her out but heres a key thing to ask, ask her if she has a bf

yes making small talk always works, then build up too asking her out but heres a key thing to ask, ask her if she has a bf
Well, preferable to pick up on suddlety so you don't need to ask. Being observant is a good thing.

yeah being observant always works, and then when u dont see a bf, go in and ask

I like to be blunt.. so be blunt.. even if you feel like a retard. The first thing you ask is "how was your day" and then you responed "thats awesome to hear." say it with a good cheerful voice..

yeah, but what if she awnsers on the "how was your day" question with an awnser like "not good"?

then be a good listener and tell her your sorry to hear that her day has been not good......everyone likes to be listened to.....ask her why her day wasn't so good, if she doesn't wna talk about it try cheering her up, tell a few jokes, talk about something you did that will make her laugh.......making someone smile is always good....when u leave she's gona remember you cus u made her smile.....also a good thing is to compliment her.....dont be too obvious tho :P

hope i've helped a little....i'm just trying to think of what i would like a guy to do if i was the girl....

whatever you do, don't use a dumb pickup line. especially not "did it hurt when u fell from heaven cos you sure look like an angel" cos it implies she's a devil...anyway...

My suggestion is to yell "Dodge the flying fish!" but thats just an idea. This is comming from a guy that has a required weekly slap.
well, it's a good way to get the girl to smile, at any rate... :D
but yeah, don't use pickup lines, that'll just weird her out.

whatever you do, don't use a dumb pickup line. especially not "did it hurt when u fell from heaven cos you sure look like an angel" cos it implies she's a devil...anyway...
LOL!!!!!!!! OMW!! Thats just funny.

well stupid pickup lines dont work, jsut be sweet, kind, and a good listener, or talker.

though the wonderful friends impression "How YOU doin?" is a lot of fun, it might get you slapped. I think my friends hands have been trained to swing at the "How" part. Yes, cheesy pickup lines are bad. Sincerity in wondering how their day is, is good.

You could always start talking about music, too. But then you run the risk of her liking Backstreet Boys or Chingy.

well look, listen, and talk, thats what i always do, look to se if they r what u want as a friend, listen t owhat they have too say, and talk too them bout it

Wow thanks alot guys this is really awesome... and humorious too. Another question i have is do most (not all) girls like to hear more about the guy or should i try to revolve the conversation around her? And if she doesn't say much does that mean i should keep telling her about myslef or just wait till next hour or even the next day?.....lol it might be useful to add this to. Me and this girl are pretty good friends, but untill i started liking her thats when i started having trouble getting started talking with her. O and good news is she doesn't have a bf..... thanks guys

Well thats good she doesnt have a bf, its good to get that our of the way if you like her. Now, what you do is you find a common place of interest, something the both of you like. See what she likes and what you like, and try to form a common ground. If and when you find a common ground, build on it, see wha telse there is.

my suggestion is to just talk what comes naturally. i think you're thinking things through too much. ever heard of paralysis by analysis? :) if the conversation leads to talking about her, talk about her. if it heads in another direction, follow. just be natural. if she is your friend (& you say she is) then you must have something in common. talk about that! just talk about small things & the conversation should go towards bigger things if you nudge it to keep it going.

the biggest thing, just be natural. nobody likes a poser. :)

Give her a complement. always works for me ;D

My advice is talk about what you know she is interested in, and act like yourself cause if she doesn't like you for you there is no way for it to last. Images only hold up for so long.

how guys usally talk to me is they'll say something funny....the "hey dodge the flying fish" accually seemed like something the guys i know would say. but it always is nice just to ask her about her day...that always works for me as well.

^ considering their friends wouldn't she already know who he is for real? and so then especially if he started acting all funky and different she would be wondering what was up. but that is good advice.

*ahem* i'm horrible and have to correct myself cause if i don't i'll have a horrible concious, lol. anyways, it should be they're, not their. it's late and i don't always make sense when it is;D.

Listen to these people. They have good advice for you :D The biggest thing is to show that you have a true interest in her as a person by talking about common interests: music, classes you have in common. Girls usually pick up on a guy's interest in them if he shows a geniune interest in their lives. But I wouldn't use pick-up lines, and probably not something too funny, unless she has a good sense of humor, because if I was that girl I might give you the "you're an idiot, please step away" look. But that could just be me!

if I was that girl I might give you the "you're an idiot, please step away" look. But that could just be me!
Is that what that look is?....

Well, that's usually the look I give! But that look comes to most guys I know. So, I don't know if other girls use it :D

They do.

If looks could kill I would be dead one hundred times over. Oh, and Alyia's glare would melt my corpse...

K, I think my advise is..... Don't take any of my advice.

Excellent. More power to them! Down with the nerdy white boys and stupid pick-up lines!

Listen to these people. They have good advice for you :D The biggest thing is to show that you have a true interest in her as a person by talking about common interests: music, classes you have in common. Girls usually pick up on a guy's interest in them if he shows a geniune interest in their lives. But I wouldn't use pick-up lines, and probably not something too funny, unless she has a good sense of humor, because if I was that girl I might give you the "you're an idiot, please step away" look. But that could just be me!

personally, i like guys that are funny so i don't give a "you're an idiot, please step away" type of look :) so it depends on the girl!!!

Hey, first off...don't stare too hard...lol. But umm...just try to talk to her, and yes, don't use cheesy pickup lines. Just be yourself. Ask her how she's doing and stuff, and what she's interested in and all that good stuff. remember dude, be yourself. if she don't like you for YOU, then she ain't worth it. haha, it's kinda funny, i'm in a similar situation...i met a girl back in august at a church lock-in, i became friends with her and eventually like fell for her you know. But I knew she wasn't ready for a relationship yet, but like over a month ago was my prom and she and i were like closer than ever. we had so much chemistry and alllot of flirting. but then it just went downhill. i ended up telling her how i felt about her (except i didn't say i love her or am in love with her or anything--most girls her age don't wanna hear it), and things were ok you know. but then, guess what happened? a friend of mine told her i'm in love with her, and it scared the poo out of her. right now, she's a little uhh...distant. and i'm going to her prom next saturday. The most i can tell you is just be careful, and don't take your heart nor feelings for granted. if you become good friends with her, DO NOT awaken love, until the time is right (song of soloman tells us that). and treat her like a lady at all times. that means opening doors, never being rude, all that good stuff. show her that you're a true gentleman. yeah...long, stupid reply, but yeah. God bless.

Yes..and don't let her find out that you want to marry her. That will scare her off in no time!