Ok, I dunno if theres a thread like this, but i figure we need a thread that ppl can ask questions about anything, like me , i wanna know what courtship is? but theres no proper thread for this question so i figure ill see if this thread works. So bassically, im jsut starting it for general questions and answers for everyday or even oddball off the wall questions. Hope u mods like it. So my question is, what the heck is courtship? cna anyone answer this.

Hm..what is courtship...well, it's an old fashioned (but it should be brought back for today) concept of a girl and guy choosing to date each other exclusively. They go out on dates and enjoy each other's company. The courting period usually lasts awhile. Courtship is meant to lead to marriage, that's why a guy won't court a girl unless he's serious about her. I hope this helps some. :)

very helpful... thanks!

Thanx homeskillet..I wasn't sure about it either, but I get it now!

OK, i've got a question..Do dreams that people have actually reveal something about their life, or future?

Sometimes. I believe they can at least. I think that's the kind of thing that just depends on what a person believes and where they stand.

it can also depend on the personal problems it may be the brain working them out.

ok another question, are long distance relationships good, especially if u find the person over the net and dont meet face too face ever?

may i interject that i nthe courting thing, its also the families getting too know the person, like if i were too date some one, her family would get too know me and mine her. just thought id pass that along

ok another question, are long distance relationships good, especially if u find the person over the net and dont meet face too face ever?

Oooooooooooooo A question for CJ!!!! :]

I'm very experienced in this area from having... *thinks* ...3 failed long term relationships over the internet (Don't laugh, I was an addict and spent all my time here.). Now there is an up and a down side to all things. I know people who have met online and had a wonderful relationship and are now married. but those numbers are very few.

The biggest percentage of people who have online relationships fail miserably, which is why I never advise anyone to get into one. They usually end up in a lot of unneeded pain. Sure, the wire is a great place to meet people and get to know them, but there is always a lot you never know until you actually meet that person.

I also find that the majority of people who date online are either young, ranging from the ages of 14-18, or they lack a social life off the computer which isn't really healthy. Mind you, this is just from the study I have done and is completely based on facts I've come up with. But facts can always be off if you aren't looking in the right places.

Usually, people in their mid 20's usually start to see things differently and understand that trying to have a relationship online is a waste of time. Plus, there is the scare factor of if you ever go to meet the person. Usually it's the female end who is more weary about such because of males being the "head power" (not to be taken in a sexest way).

There is always another side to every story. Sometimes meeting someone online can be a great thing. As I said, I do know people who have met online and gotten married. But for the most part, it's like trying to hit a bird with a stone. You can try over and over again, but you might never hit that darn bird.

There are a few people who know and have read something I wrote a while back called "The Legacy". It talks about my life and about my adventure of dating online and really, that search for "the one". It's link has long since been taken off my webpage, but it does still exist in an anonomous location. If anyone is interested in reading it, send me an IM and I can give you the link. I have gotten good feedback from a lot of people who have read it whether they somehow could compare it to their own lives, or maybe they just had a relationship go bad and wanted to see how other people handle things. Either way...

CJ

Ok, i got a question, how do i ask out a girl? i need some help

Ok, i got a question, how do i ask out a girl? i need some help
Already answered here (http://panheads.org/boards/showthread.php?t=1329&page=1)

Ok i have another question, there is this girl, to who i love very much as a friend, she is beautiful from the inside, and even more beautiful from the outside, but someone told her that I have a crush over her, and since then she doesnt want to talk to me, cuz she thinks that i betrayed her, when i told her that i love her deeply as my best friend... not as a girlfriend or anything else, but she doesnt belive me! , akward situation

hhmm thats a tough question. My advice would be too try too talk too the friend that said that, and try too get him too repeal that statement he said. That may work, I'll try too give u other advice if i think of it.

TX... but that guy came to my friend and said that, then he told her the truth, but she didnt belive it, so she thinks i have a crush on her... and there is nothing i can do to change her mind

well maybe u could IM me on yahoo or msn and we could talk bout it more.

wow, that would be tough. from a girl's perspective all i can say is to kinda cool it with her a bit. keep your distance. to constantly try and defend yourself could prove (in her mind) that you really do like her and you just didn't want her to know. obviously she just wants a friendship with you at this moment (not saying that in a negative way toward you). respect her desire to not hang with each other as much.

i know this probably isn't what you want to hear - but you'll have to regain her trust. she feels it has been violated and it'll take time to get it back. more than just a few days. find things to do that would emphasize friendship (group settings, etc.). be patient with her and don't try to rush things.

thats what iwas htinkin just couldnt type it.

Thanks!, that is maybe the best advice i can get THANK YOU VERY MUCH!!!!

your welcome. hope everything works out for you two (as friends). :)

thanks!, i talked to her yesterday, she is still like "blocking" me (dunno the word to use) but the things are getting better

ok question, when a person is bugging u, do u send some one else, who is a friend too both of yall too tell them that they are bugging u, or do u tell them yourself? cause last night that happened too me, a person who i thought of as a friend was apparently being bugged by me, and used a friend that we both knew to otell me, instead of telling me herself.

dang, that really sux . I fine that really cowardly when a person can't do their dirty work for themsevles shows alot about a person.So i think she should've took the plate and just told you herself instead using a friend of both you guys .

ok i gots a question, why cant people just be friends instead of looking for the relationship? I am a 21 almost 22 yr old guy that thinks its always good to odevelope a friendship, and not go for the relationship, am i the only one?

No, you're not alone. I love making friends, but I have the opposite problem -- no one wants to love me (Jesus notwithstanding, cuz God has always loved me) or be in a relationship with me, perhaps cuz I'm too ugly. *Nobody loves me, everybody hates me, Guess I'll go eat worms*

i have he same problem, im jsut saying, i hear alot of people (female friends in particular) complai too me about that problem. Mr, im personally ugly as well, but i survive (puts arm around disciples shoulders) we can be brothers in the uglyness together, now why do people want relationships more than friendships?

For non-Christian sisters, they need the love they don't know they are getting. As for Christians, maybe the same reason I want a relationship: 'cuz time's running out, and I've never experienced the love of a woman.

*puts arm around Christian brother* So I know the feeling.

well thanks brother, well heres another question, why do i argue with some online friends but not others?

Brother, *chuckle* cause we can't retaint true anger, hate, or ire. We only get cranky. lol, But seriously, we're a mystery.

ok, well hhmm im runing out of questions, does anyone have a question?**lol i jsut asked one heee hee**

I don't have any questions now, do you? lol, I just asked one.

anyways, before we get off the topic i orignally designed this thread for, why do women sometimes manipulate men into doing things?

Because makind (that does include women) can often be selfish in nature. Manipulation is a trait of narcissism, but most women do it to get control.

well ok, heres a question what in the heck is narciissism? ive got a vague idea, and if u have an IM plz IM me

IM... I only have what's on this site. My dad is a minimalist when it comes to this old cpu.

aahh i see, well whats that narc thing?

Narcissism is self-centeredness, but worse. The person who is (n) is unaware of being overly selfish. They manipulate others to get their way. In a divorce situation involving children, a person with (n) personality disorder will do their very best to get custody just for the sake of "winning." They show a disregard for others' emotions as well. A (n) person will ask a friend to blow off their family for Christmas and ask that they spend time with together. That's just a brief explaination.

ok i gots a question, why cant people just be friends instead of looking for the relationship? I am a 21 almost 22 yr old guy that thinks its always good to odevelope a friendship, and not go for the relationship, am i the only one?


Ok, this is it...

WHY??? beacuse when the friendship is so big, most people think that the next thing, or the next step is "Sex related things" and thats why, cuz most people are always trying to get better at everything they do.. to have a better friendship, and most of them dont see that there are something called LIMITS!

Thats why

aahh i c now. now my next oine pertaining too that is, since i want too be jsut friends, why are all the women attracted too me? i mean this is jsut screwing me up, cuz of my male urges, which i desperatly try too control.

Amen, brothers!

oh and saulg, cna i add ya too yahoo and aim?

And MSN for me?

uumm disiple, if ya havent figured it out, if u look on the left hand side, ucan see all the IM;s they have

i know that, I was asking if I could add him.

oh wait my mistake nvm

ok, it's ok. isok, a word I invented

now back too MY question disciple, dotn even bother postin, saulg i need u help here, u seem rpetty smart.


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aahh i c now. now my next oine pertaining too that is, since i want too be jsut friends, why are all the women attracted too me? i mean this is jsut screwing me up, cuz of my male urges, which i desperatly try too control.

aahh i c now. now my next oine pertaining too that is, since i want too be jsut friends, why are all the women attracted too me? i mean this is jsut screwing me up, cuz of my male urges, which i desperatly try too control.

i meant this thingie

i am gonna have to refresh your memory... i am from Guatemala, English is my second language, so, please... repeat your question cuz i really did not understand it! soorry dude

As for Christians, maybe the same reason I want a relationship: 'cuz time's running out, and I've never experienced the love of a woman.
i know you didn't ask a question, but i felt like i needed to respond anyway. time is on God's side. it doesn't run out when He's winding the clock. ;) don't even trip about this. just live for God, be with Him, be His son, then everything else will fall into place. no, life (especially relationships) won't be perfect, but it is so much less stressful & a whole lot more assured when we do that than for anything else.

basically, don't worry. your time will come.

^ right on mike. i agree.

and let me add this - don't live for the love of a woman, live for the love of God. He loves you more than a woman ever could.

it's natural to want to marry and such. but marriage is more than sex. and there is more to life than just sex.

it's so sad when people marry so young just because they want to be able to have sex (or when they have sex with their b/f or g/f in need of 'love'). and then end up miserable because that too gets empty. and you need to actually have more a friendship...more than just the physical aspect of a relationship.

love is so much more than sex. or any other physical aspect. don't limit it to only that.

ask the Lord to help you stand against the temptation to give in before marriage. view them as your literal sisters...how many brothers are sexually attracted to their sisters? ask the Lord to see women the way He sees them. know that He will give you the desires of your heart as you delight yourself in Him. as you develope your relationship with Him.

Well im not here for "sex" I dont want a relationship for that, I need a physical shoulder to ocry on, a person too lsiten too me, someone too be there, i know God is there and always will be.
What I was asking got all twisted all around for some odd reason cuz I dont think Disciple understood my question and completely missed the mark.
Heres a new question, why is it so hard for people too open up and becoem friends? I' have been talking too Kristy for about 6 months now and shes cool, really keeping me straight. But now that I'm pushing all my negativaty aside and putting effort into our friendship, she is busier, what is up with this?
And along those lines, why is it so hard for like a 14 year old girl too trust a 21 yeard old guy? Now I know your first reaction is why is a 21 year old guy talking to oa 14 year old girl, well maybe 2 ppl of that age difference can become friends and not look at age, age has nothing too d owith things. I beleive what it is is that people are afraid now of days too trust and too be freinds. I jsut wanna know why?

Why is it so hard for people too open up and becoem friends?

1.) people is afraid to get hurt
2.) you want to be his/her friend, but he/she doesnt, so she/he tries to set you apart, so, be patient, let the friendship grows, dont force it!
3.) because God made us like that



why is it so hard for like a 14 year old girl too trust a 21 yeard old guy?

uuummm i think 7 years is the answer and the maturity you get in that period of time is a very big thing

^ right on mike. i agree.

and let me add this - don't live for the love of a woman, live for the love of God. He loves you more than a woman ever could.

it's natural to want to marry and such. but marriage is more than sex. and there is more to life than just sex.

it's so sad when people marry so young just because they want to be able to have sex (or when they have sex with their b/f or g/f in need of 'love'). and then end up miserable because that too gets empty. and you need to actually have more a friendship...more than just the physical aspect of a relationship.

love is so much more than sex. or any other physical aspect. don't limit it to only that.

ask the Lord to help you stand against the temptation to give in before marriage. view them as your literal sisters...how many brothers are sexually attracted to their sisters? ask the Lord to see women the way He sees them. know that He will give you the desires of your heart as you delight yourself in Him. as you develope your relationship with Him.
I'm so sorry guys, I don't mean to interrupt, but I wanted to tell these guys that since I posted that so long ago I've seen the light from then, so no need to worry about me... I say screw people, who can break your heart, and right on God! God's love is the ONLY thing I need now. Jesus rocks!!!!

God bless,
A.D.