some of my friends were talking in the halls today about not going to YG anymore bc of pple there. u guys helped me in that decision a lot and ive stayed there not for the pple but for the teaching there. so heres my question

WHAT CAN I DO TO HELP THEM MAKE THE RIGHT DECISION FOR THEM?

i really want them to come back to the YG but i want whats best for them more so how to i help them decide to stay there stop going at all or go to another YG?

1. Pray for them.
2. Invite them back.
3. Remind them what they are really there for.
4. Pray some more. (also for the people that are there that are the reason they don't want to go anymore)

I had that same problem. I didn't like the people. It just didn't "click". (plus it sames all they cared about was looking cool for the up coming dance.) I just tried different groups. I think you should let them explore. If they quit going to youth groups in general encourage them or take someone else advice!!

perhaps they merely need a break, mebe thay need a new vision from God, a revelation of why they're there.... such as the saying that in a relationship, when the two individuals are apart, they grow closer in that distance.... i've been at that place and perhaps it's something as simple as a youthgroup that's not for them, that can happen, try encouraging them to find a different youth group that they can feel more at home at and also get the good teaching and spirit lead worship that they might be looking for....

if they arnt on fire for God then that's a whole other issue that needs prayer... that means that they arnt being connected with God and that they've strayed from the Faith.

It's always hard when someone leaves a yg, but last year I decided to leave mine. The ppl there & i didnt get along. I was miserable & upset after everytime i felt & i wasn't gettin anything out of that y.g.. I now go to a youth group that i have friends at, & I am getting stuff. But, the ppl from my actaul church now (where i used to go to y.g. also) still treat me like i'm the odd one out. So my advice to you is, you can't change your mind. That might even make them go less if you force them. But when they come back (to visit, or whatever) make sure your nice & accepting when they are there! I'll be prayin for it all! Hope it all works out :)

This is just me but you don't go to YG for your friends or for other people, you go there to worship God and to hear what God has put on the speaker's heart to say.

Tell him or her if it has to do with the people there, that he or she needs to forgive that person for what they did to them, and to keep going to yg. Satan will do this in youth groups to make sure people will stop going.

If he or she won't listen, then the best thing to do after that is pray for them.

-J

This is just me but you don't go to YG for your friends or for other people, you go there to worship God and to hear what God has put on the speaker's heart to say.

Tell him or her if it has to do with the people there, that he or she needs to forgive that person for what they did to them, and to keep going to yg. Satan will do this in youth groups to make sure people will stop going.


it's been said that "the church is the only army that shoots it's own wounded." there is way too much truth to that statement. the church is supposed to be there for you. one part of the body helping out another.

it's true that God isn't about church, but church is about people. if you don't get along with the people at the church you go to & you've done everything you can to reconcile, it might be time to find a new church. of course, if you are at fault (& that would take some soul searching & probably the perspective of an honest friend), then you should reconcile. it's never good to run from problems.

If your friends want to leave due to a single person or a couple of people in the group, then thats an issue that should be sorted anyway, leaving or not leaving. If it's an arguement with anyone, it's important that you don't hold grudges, or cause other people to sin by holding grudges against you. So even if they leave, that problem needs to be sorted out, and then they may not want to leave after all!

With the ssue of not fitting in, couldn't you bring along a friend who you know already ntil you get to know more people? rue, it's not all about the people but it's pretty hard to worship when you feel isolated all the time. What the point in coming together, to worship by yourself? You may as well stay home. If everyone else is there to worship God too, then you will find a common ground in talking about him and worshipping him. Like unshakeable said; don't shoot your own wounded.