Ok so I have guy friends and all that. but they arent reallly close to me. how do I get a guy to be my friend Not boyfriend but just friend. I want abest friend thats a guy. I know it sounds weird but I do. I always feel like I can go to guys alot more than girls. Its weird I know but Guys can u please help me.

I'm a girl, but I know what you're talking about. I don't have any guys that are my best friends.

You can't 'get' someone to be your friend. It just kind of happens. Just talk to them as you normally would and be a true friend to them. You can't force things like this.

good advice morgan. ditto to what you said. :)

thats true, and i have the same problem... try posting this in the boys thread, too...

Just talk with them and be yourself, be nice/loving etc, act normally and like a friend would, and the friendship will grow.

Do you think you feel like you have to act different around guys than girls? THat could be a problem. Maybe you should just be you and eventually things will work out.

Ok.

Everyone is saying 'just be yourself' but that can be really hard for some people. Your personality and even whole mindset may seem to change because you are so busy thinking about the other person.

Do you want to develop a better relationship with a specific person (or people) in general or is it just because you don't have any close guy friends? If it is the latter, then you might want to rethink your motives. Are you saying this just so that you can have a 'best guy friend'?

Guys are so much different than girls - it really is a different sort of energy you're dealing with. It is kind of refreshing sometimes. Short story:

All of my close friends are girls. Recently I have been talking to guys a lot more and I like talking to them better sometimes just because of how much more honest they are...and I find myself wanting to talk to guys instead of girls, not so that I can 'hook up' with them but just so I can talk to them and not hear the same things girls say...

Ok, here's my advice. Now, it might not make sense, so pay attention, or ask me to try and explain it better cause I'm thinking it might be interpreted wrong. K, i'll try.
K, this is my advice, try and put yourself in a situation where you can't not be friends. Like, k, like ask for homework help (I don't really know what age you are but i'm just giving examples), or if you have a spare then like sit with them while you work and converse. Or find a similar interest, like a band, or political leader (ha ha ha, long story) but like, I dunno a teacher you like to talk about. Or do like extra curricular activities. Like I do ALOT of drama stuff at school and alot of my guy friends are from that. I dunno, just remember that you can't manipulate guys. Like, you can't force them into anything. Just open up, find things to talk about, it'll come slowly. At least that's what I found with my guy relationships. And don't be blind to the guys that are trying to be YOUR friend too...if that makes sense.
So yeah, if you didn't get it, cause let's face it I'm NOT good at explaining things, just tell me and I'll try again!!
K peace

I dunno, just remember that you can't manipulate guys. Like, you can't force them into anything.


That's not completely true... but guys don't get into it once they recognize it for what it is, we hate drama :P

The problem with young males is a lot of times, when a girl shows the littlest interest in talking to them, they think they have alternate motives in mind. This is just the way it is 90% of the time...

However, I read a neat little tactic in a book recently that I've wondered if it actually works:

'Alysandra will let you court her, my friend,' supplied Demetrius. 'I think she's secretly amused by the attention. And she's very sweet. I don't think she has a mean thought in her, but by the end of the first evening you court her, she'll have you swearing that you'll be just like a brother to her, and you'll know that you're never going to get your arms around that slender waist, and just before she turns you around and points you back to your own quarters, you'll either get a tiny hug, one so brief you'll barely feel her next to you, or a fluttering kiss on the cheek, with her lips hardly touching your face. A kiss on the cheek is considered a badge of achievement among the lads here.'

Funny thought, but if you can turn the guys into brothers, you might have a chance at a good friendship. ;)

CJ

Funny thought, but if you can turn the guys into brothers, you might have a chance at a good friendship. ;)

CJ


good advice there CJ. having that mindset has actually helped me on several occassions.

Thanks CJ thats good advice. I guess what im sayin is that I feel like guys dont like me. I want a very first good guy friend. I mean my friend Rachel says that she doesnt seem like why guys dont like me but they dont. and I want a guy friend.

but thanks CJ.

I find that it is easier to be friends with a guy who is already dating someone else. It seems to take the "Romance" level out of it.

just be cool with them that seemed to always work with me and i had guy friends its not hard to be there friends just talk to them creating a friendship as with anyone you know and it usually works out.I mean they don't bite im jk.

The best thing is to find people who aren't interested in anything more than a friendship. Intentions can always quickly expose themselves. Just be yourself and find a common interest. :)

CJ

Having friends is good. Just talk about something that you like with them or ask them something I did that yesterday .

Well just don't overdo it. I mean most people are open to be friends. It doesn't mean you'll be good friends, but who knows. And it may go further. :D

Thanks guys. this means alot

So yeah how are things going??

My advice is don't try and be something you are not. All guys do have a brain, no matter what people think. They also listen to other people, so they already have an indication on who you really are. Since they kinda know who you already are, they also already know how far they would want to go with you. I am just the opposite of you, I like to hang out with guys, but talk to girls. It's easier to talk to the opposite sex for some reason. Also, nop matter what, you always change even a little bit when you talk with the opposite sex, it's just natural you do.

we almost should combine this thread, the dating thread, the boys thread, and the girls thread since they all really talk about the same thing.

i know. i'm really tempted to. but we'll see if the other mods notice this. they are really similar.

So yeah how are things going??

Things Are goin good. I talked to my best friends boyfriend and he seems to really like me as a friend and we talk alot so I just reallyw anna thank you guys for helping.