Hey ladies and gents, this is a thread asking advice on marriage from you married panheads out there. My girl and i have the date set for October 7 of this year. By this time a year from now i will be in the land of the hitched a wonderful place. Fellas any advice on how to treat your lady,and how to build her up when she is down and ladies any advice on what not to do or how to treat her right and with respect. i am doing this so i can learn a few things on how to work with her so i can be a better man to her and lift her up and vice versa. i am a open tablet teach me. pray for us as we grow in christ togther. Mk kid (chris) ;D ;D ;D

I'm not married, not really old enough yet, but it never hurts to obey your wife ;)

Always nod your head when shes talking so she either thinks that you are agreeing with her or paying attention even when your not.

Keep in mind that Yes means No, Maybe means No, and No means No.

Another thing to keep in mind: You're always wrong... even when you're right.

Now watch as I get flamed by all the people who thought I was being serious...

CJ

STUPID CJ! HOW COULD YOU BE SO CHAUVINISTIC!!!!


lol, couldnt help it.

I'm engaged also. No date set yet.

Stuff I've learnt with Laura:


If you've messed up, apologise. Doesn't matter what it was about, doesn't matter how much you DON'T want to. Apologise anyway.

Pray and Read together everyday that you are together. If you're not together on a certain day, then phone each other to read together.

If you're not having a good day, SAY SOMETHING! You're supposed to help each other when you're down, so when you feel like crap talk to her.

True, life is too short and valuable to spend angry with the person you love.

Congrats Scott. :>

CJ

The Rules of Marriage:

1. Women make every single rule..

2. Men are not to try and figure them out as they are subject to change in any given circumstance at any given moment.

3. When a women gives her opinion just smile and say "I couldn't agree with you more".

Ok here's the real advice God is priority one, your spouce is priority two. Always treat your spouce and your marraige with the uttmost importance, respect, and unselfishness. It is selfishness that causes the break-down of a marriage.

I'm not married, or even close to it, unless the Lord moves in a wierd way in the next year. Anyways, however, I have watched my parents build a strong marriage and here is a piece of advice that I have learned watching them....
1. Try and set a little bit of time aside to have little dates. My parents will go out for coffee on the days that I have a delay start at school, and can keep an eye on the kiddlings. Or sometimes they will watch movies after all of us are either asleep, or in my case, up doing homework.

that was funny CJ....tho strangely i see that being true quite a lot in peoples relationships.....obviously not with me n Scott tho....i can't help it if i'm always right ;)


ok seriously now, what i've learned....

1. When God is the centre of ur relationship....you can cope with anything.

2. Reading and praying together daily strengthens both your relationship with God and each other so much more than you can imagine!

3. It's always nice to really listen to how each others day has been whenever you get together, its good to share.

4. Even though you may know you love each other lots, it's good to show it with a hug, or two, or three......hey you can never have too many hugs! *hugs*

4. Eating chocy together is great, just make sure the girl gets most of it......lol.

I suppose I fail in number 4 then Laura? You usually get full too quick leaving me to polish off the remainder of the chocolate ;)

i dont get full.......i just spread out my chocy eating.....u just eat faster than me :P


ooo another thing.....being able to joke together...that's important :)

i am a bit under age to get married but my advise

make shure tehy know you lobve them it doesnt matter if you have alredy said it or tehy alredy kno wi talways helps to say it again.

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Jill

Congratulations Chris ;D ;D ;D

congrats Chris and Scott&Laura. :)

one advice that i have from watching my parents. communication

even over little things. to not talk opens the door to insecurities, strife, lack of trust....keep conversation open between you two. always. doesn't have to be major stuff all the time.

another thing, girls tend to be very attentive to detail. usually the smallest acts of kindness and love are the ones she will remember the most.

^ *Intends to emphasise Tracy's point further*

If your spouse does something that confuses you, hurts you, or that you just don't like.

Do NOT! I repeat do NOT sit back and do nothing! That's opening a million doorways for attacks and paranoia! Talk to them immediately and get it sorted right away! It could be something as stupid as them not offering you something from the shop when they go, doesnt matter.

TALK!!!!!!!!

I think 2 important factors are COMMUNICATION and TEAMWORK!!!!!! Also support each other in whatever they are doing. I of course had to learn that the hard way! :( Once I learned that , everything is going smoothly again! :D

ok. i'm waaaaaay too young to get married, but a little advice my mom gave me in advance: never say you don't like the food she makes. especially if she worked hard. it hurts their feelings.

Hey mike you can lock this thread i dont need it any more she dumped me so just shut it down unless some one wants to dicuss this for other couples about to get hitched, to that i say good luck and hope God is in it or your up ------- creek without a paddle and not a chance in --- to get back. make sure he is in it and you are both right and ready.

chris - i'm sorry it didn't work out for you two. on the brightside, it's best to find out before the commitment is made. i'll go ahead lock this thread for you...