some of oyu know me from the post i have put out and many have been helping me with a issue on the dating older people thread, but in a nutshell for those who dont my girlfriend who is younger than me was going to marry me, we had the date set i had bought the ring, and despite it all she said no to me and called it quits, now wether she changed her mind or not when you have been dating for almost two years it creates a bond, and now she wont take a hint it is over, she ended it not me and now i am going to have to talk to her again to make sure we are on the same page. she wants to date other people and deep down inside i think i still love her but she we agreed we would last to the end, when we first stared dating we both felt that way i still do she apparently does not. i would just assume to move on and forget this whole thing, but she keeps coming back in eamils and in my thoughts, i wonder still if i should date her or get married just plesase pray for guidance this morning i was angry over all of it and right now i am just depressed i need prayer, for everything. ??? :-\

marriage is not something to rush into. going off and getting married will not solve the issues you are dealing with. i understand how emotional ties are made in a relationship (esp. in ones that are serious...as your's sounded with talk of marriage and all). i think the best thing for you right now is some space between you two. so you can clear your thoughts and look at this relationship with a fresh perspective. to try and date her now would throw emotions (your's and her's) into a whole new rollercoster and it would not be healthy for either of you.

i just want to encourage you that marriage (and dating) does not define you...you don't reach the epiphany of life when you are married. yes marriage is a wonderful thing but i believe if you wrap up your identity in it, then you will never fully enjoy marriage for what it is. marriage is a big commitment and dangerous to rush into (i've seen it ruin people because they just "went for it" without thinking about the commitment being made).

i know there are individuals on here that can give you better advice. i just wanted to encourage you because in reading your post i got the impression that this whole dating/marriage stuff has you all consumed. so maybe the best thing right now is to cut that off for awhile....take this time to grow closer to the Lord and learn more about yourself. you're still growing and maturing yourself. use this to build your character...don't let it crush you.