hi guys i need some help
ok alot has happen to me and i'm feeling very upset and hurt and was wondering how you guy deal with anger in a positive but useful way

please help me

monkey-butt

I would say, pray to God to help you. Sorry, I am not that good at advice..

I would say, pray to God to help you. Sorry, I am not that good at advice..

thanks for the thought

heri is right, prayer is the best weapon you have agianst anger.

Really? I was right, cool.

Whatever is causing me to be angry, I think about "Is this really worth getting mad about?" No.

cause it will all be taken care of in the end.

here's a good way to deal with anger towards someone....


Pray for them...put all your energy into praying for them and you will find that all that resentment and anger towards them melts away...God is amazing that way...


Ephesians 4:26-27
"If you are angry, don't sin by nursing your grudge. Don't let the sun go down with you still angry—get over it quickly; For when you are angry you give a mighty foothold to the devil."

I Peter 3:9
"Don't repay evil for evil. Don't snap back at those who say unkind things about you. Instead, pray for God's help for them, for we are to be kind to others, and God will bless us for it."

You should try to have a good attitude about it and you should be nice to the person that offended you and not retaliate at them. (and of course pray for them)

Proverbs 25:21-22
"If thine enemy be hungry, give him bread to eat; and if he be thirsty, give him water to drink: for thou shalt heap coals of fire upon his head, and the LORD shall reward thee.

Romans 12:19
"Dearly beloved, avenge not yourselves, but rather give place unto wrath: for it is written, Vengeance is mine; I will repay, saith the Lord.

it may not sound like the best solution or the reason to do it, but when i get really mad i just play the crap out of my guitar. thats not why i play guitar but its also an easy way to let anger out plus then i get practice in so w/e

thanks your guys have been a huge help
always
kelly

i'll be praying for you...

Well, whenever im ANGRY I just try sleep it out so I dont end up ruining someone elses day cause of it. Or take a nice warm bath relaxs me . I try to think positive thoughts not focusing on my anger try to take the attention off it.Listen to music and just chill till the anger goes away. But the best thing that i do is to rationlize it is it necessary to feel this way? and I know its not. pray of course.

thanks you guys i feel much better!!!!!! ;D

Break stuff. :) j/k

Write a song or a poem. That always helps me.

CJ

it may not sound like the best solution or the reason to do it, but when i get really mad i just play the crap out of my guitar. thats not why i play guitar but its also an easy way to let anger out plus then i get practice in so w/e
i do that alot. when you get angry, pray, put on a good cd, play an instrument, or (this is an awesome way) write it down. write a poem, a story, or just write out your feelings. I do that sometimes. actually, i'm a tad bit upset right now so i might go do one of these things.

i do that sometimes too, but i don't get mad that often. it saves me a lot of money on strings. ;)

I vent.......to pretty much anyone who will listen.

yeah, sometimes you just gotta let it out.

yeah. there are times when i just go into my room and vent to the walls.

I like to scream and cry in my pillow. That's always nice. :X

I find that writing, listening to loud and screamy music, and / or ranting in my Xanga does a world of good. :)

those are always good ways. i wish i had my own place. then i could yell, blare music, all the fun stuff. but writing helps me get out my feelings much more.

i wish i had a really good friend i could vent to and they would understand.

i wanna kno how to deal wiht mine to--- cuz when i get angry-- its pretty scary i could tair the whole house apart--litterlly-- but ill be prayin for ya!!!

we'll be prayin for u 2.

i HAVE ripped apart the house before. anger makes me really strong.

it's crazy what anger can do to you.

I bottle my anger up inside becaues i have a hard time expressing myself, but when im upset or angry i read. I don't know why i do. i guess it just calms me.

keeping emotions bottled up inside of you is not healthy...find safe ways to release it. whether it be through poetry, painting, drawing, music....and above all, prayer. believe it or not prayer has always helped me control my emotions. getting quiet before the Lord, pouring my all before Him, and listening to His voice...He is our comforter.

Gosh, for some reason I was really angry earlier on today, maybe it was because I was so hungry...

dude, i've been so angry before. so angry i've just wanted everyone to die.

Wow, me too...

yea, I think we all have.

ive got a problem w/ anger ive had it since i was a little boy i get so angry that a hatred consumes me and i hate everything and forget everything except hate and anger. it dosnt happen that often but when it does i cant control it i dont know whats wrong w/ me but i didnt even know it happend till someone pointed out that i did something when i was mad and i didnt even remeber what happend that scared me i think i need prayer....

I will pray for you then :)

ive got a problem w/ anger ive had it since i was a little boy i get so angry that a hatred consumes me and i hate everything and forget everything except hate and anger. it dosnt happen that often but when it does i cant control it i dont know whats wrong w/ me but i didnt even know it happend till someone pointed out that i did something when i was mad and i didnt even remeber what happend that scared me i think i need prayer....

I also have a hard time controling myself when I'm angry, not quite to that extent but pretty bad. I got upset today and punched a locker, now my hand hurts and I'm wondering how that made sense to me at the time. Usually I try to write in my journal, or talk to a friend, or pray. Loud music and long walks tend to help as well I find.

I have a problem when it comes to anger I bottle everything up inside I do the same thing when it comes to stress. My arms and my back always hurt when I do that. I'm gonna start praying when I get mad or when I'm stressed out.

yea prayers the answer. Its not good keeping emotions locked up inside like that. One day you might crack just let it out man you'll feel much better.Cry,scream,do whatever you got to do just dont become bitter and angry its useless your only hurting yourself in the long run.

it is ok to be angry but not to the point where you lose your peace. don't let someone control you like a puppet by stealing your peace. just let it go. easier said than done, i know....but the more you do, the easier it will become.

let it go.

Yeah last week I got my haircut, i just wanted the lady to snip the curls but instead she had to cut almost all my hair off. I was so mad, I couldnt control myself, I started throwing things like books shoes and cd's, it felt good at the time to let it out. But the next day i was sad because everything was broken.

So what im saying is DONT DO THAT, now i just pray, or listen to soft music, or go work out.