well its summer, and my girlfriend and I seem to be gone at all the wrong times, when im gone, shes in town, and when shes gone, im in town. I get to talk to her on the phone most everyday, but thats not enough. Recently ive been feeling really sad that i havent been able to see her, and ive started telling her about how sad i am. Shes really funny and she tries to cheer me up but it doesnt work, and im asking myself "if the reason im so sad, is that shes not here, then why do I get even sadder when i do get to talk to her on the phone?" well today she told me in the nicest way possible not to call her unless im feeling happy. this hurt me cuz i realize now that im not only messing myself up, but im messing her up. the problem is that i dont know how to fix this feeling i have, and i dont want to just not call her, because then shed think i was ignoring her. if any of you understand what im trying to say, please tell me your opinions.

and im sorry im using up board space for this.......i just dont know who else to ask

don't ever think that you're using up board space on a prayer request. never. :)

now then, i know i don't know your situation very well, actually, not at all. but let me tell you a tale of two friends of mine. they had been dating for a while and things were going good. but then they both felt that God was telling them to split up. they didn't want that, but they had to listen to God. so they did. they hated it. they guy, Nick, said it was one of the worst times they'd gone through in their relationship and he wanted to call her every day. but he knew if he did that, he'd be going against God.

God brought them back together a couple weeks later (or months, i'm not sure) and they are getting married in August. but they both testify that if they'd not gone through that time of being apart, they might not be getting married.

being apart is part of a relationship. it's a time to grow as a couple, strangely enough.

i'll be praying for you while you grow in this tough time. :)

well its summer, and my girlfriend and I seem to be gone at all the wrong times, when im gone, shes in town, and when shes gone, im in town. I get to talk to her on the phone most everyday, but thats not enough. Recently ive been feeling really sad that i havent been able to see her, and ive started telling her about how sad i am. Shes really funny and she tries to cheer me up but it doesnt work, and im asking myself "if the reason im so sad, is that shes not here, then why do I get even sadder when i do get to talk to her on the phone?" well today she told me in the nicest way possible not to call her unless im feeling happy. this hurt me cuz i realize now that im not only messing myself up, but im messing her up. the problem is that i dont know how to fix this feeling i have, and i dont want to just not call her, because then shed think i was ignoring her. if any of you understand what im trying to say, please tell me your opinions.

and im sorry im using up board space for this.......i just dont know who else to ask

I think you are feeling sad when you talk to her on the phone, because you want to be w/ her physically, you want to hold her, kiss her ect. and you cannot do that when you are on the phone, am I making sense? I hope so...and PLZ dont ever feel bad that about taking up ' board space' cuz you arnt

all i can say is cling to Jesus. now, im not dating any1 but there is some1 who kinda just keeps me awake @ night. i dont c him much @ all & ive been like this 4 almost 2 yrs. yes, its hard..but God has just told me to wait & not give up. so thats what ive been doing & will continue to do. in the mean time, its not easy so i just ask God to help me deal with it & he does in the most awsome of ways. soooo...in a nutshell, just go to ur knees & God will have it under control b/c dont forget...he is feeling everything u are right now & he knows it all already so no1 can help u better than him.

><sarah><

^i'm sorta the same way. in april i started liking this guy and i wanted to get with him real fast but God was telling me to take it slow. i didn't listen and almost messed up things between me and him really bad. so we had to start all over in the end and now things are coming around really nicely and i might be able to take him to my church with me. and that's totally awesome and it's because in the end i had to listen to God. and i may end up with him. and i think i might at least for awhile... but who knows? ;D