Nedarbi
06-11-2006, 01:52 PM
i just read this article someone wrote abot how parents give the wrong impressions about sexuality to there kids.

http://www.shoutwire.com/comments/15782/My_Daughter_s_A_Tramp_Isn_t_It_Cute

personally i agree with this man. many parents seem to think they dont need to discuss things with there children. what really facinated my about this article was the idea that the clothes girls wear is directly related to either there sexual wants, or there sexual misunderstanding. many people think it's harmless.

what do you think?

lamb_servant72
06-11-2006, 03:29 PM
I think the article writer contradicted himself by wanting parents to forbid their kids to dress like that and buy certain CD's, yet, when refering to sex ed, he said, "Everybody knows the more you forbid something, the more a child is going to want to do it."

sky_flashings
06-12-2006, 02:36 AM
There's a difference between sex ed and clothes with sex messages on them, though. :P

disciple
06-12-2006, 10:38 AM
Not really. :D ;)

md4j
06-30-2006, 07:27 AM
The truth is that what a child wears does effect his or her attitude. I'm sick of seeing 8 year olds with their bellies showing or their pants hanging down to their knees. It's time parents stand up and say that being trashy isn't the way to live, period. For a young girl to dress provocatively is just an invitation for pedephiles to stare at her and for people to look at her as easy. Trust me, boys today are thinking about sex at younger ages and to offer up a girl to these boys with those types of clothes isn't helpful for the boys or the girls who dress like that.

I wish to ask these parents. "Do you want your daughter to be confused for a whore?" What a child wears and listens to on the radio effects him or her.

theelectric3
06-30-2006, 12:34 PM
yes, the younger you are... the more influencial. it's so true... no matter who tries to deny it.

i wish for parents to start raising ladies and men.

not little girls and boys in adult bodies.

alorian
07-01-2006, 01:59 AM
i wish for parents to start raising ladies and men.

not little girls and boys in adult bodies.

seriously, I completely agree

lamb_servant72
07-01-2006, 02:27 AM
This is something I have struggled with as a parent. (No, I have never let my kids wear clothes with sex messages on them!)

I was extremely sheltered as a child. I was only allowed to watch Little House on the Prairie (until Carrie said a cuss word, then I couldn't even watch that!). My mom always turned the channel if a tampon commercial came on! I wasn't allowed to listen to anything but Christian music. My dad was the pastor, and my social life was my church.

While those things all had positive influences on me, I was so curious about things I shouldn't be. Later on, I did alot of things I shouldn't have.

My best friend from high school and my best friend from college were raised in single parent homes. No one took them to church. They were allowed to do whatever they wanted and listen to whatever they wanted. Men were in and out of the home, they were exposed to alcohol, cussing, etc very often.

They were both virgins when they got married. In fact, one never even kissed another boy except her husband (and waited until after marriage to do that!). They don't drink, etc (BF from high school ran with wild crowd in 8th grade and drank then, but decided because of how her mother's life was, she didn't want that, and she quit. She's now married to a minister.)

I know alot of other examples, but I thought I'd use a personal one because I hate generalities.

I just don't think it's all about what you allow your child to see and listen to. I wish I knew the "perfect formula".

I "sheltered" my children for a long time. I homeschooled for several years. They were much better behaved back then. But, I gave up fighting "Don't listen to Britney" when my husband burns CDs to bring home to them. I quit fighting for dinner around the table every night, when husband wants to sit on the couch and watch Friends during dinner (and they love that, so again, I'm the "bad guy").

We always talk about what the show is about. I remember thinking a family was so terrible for allowing their children to watch such things when I was in my early 20s. The mother said it gave her an opportunity to talk to her children about their beliefs, the kids were going to hear the same things at school. I thought that was a horrible. Now I'm not so sure, when I see how early they are exposed to things in school that I didn't know about until high school or later.

A commercial will come on with a lady wearing underwear, or a woman on TV will be showing too much cleavage and one of my kids will say, "I can't believe she's wearing that, that's just wrong." And I'll agree.

I know that keeping them from everything is not the answer. It didn't work for me. That's not to say I don't have boundaries. I do. But, they are not where I wish they could be if we lived in a perfect world.

Unregistered
07-01-2006, 09:59 AM
The truth is that what a child wears does effect his or her attitude. I'm sick of seeing 8 year olds with their bellies showing or their pants hanging down to their knees. It's time parents stand up and say that being trashy isn't the way to live, period. For a young girl to dress provocatively is just an invitation for pedephiles to stare at her and for people to look at her as easy. Trust me, boys today are thinking about sex at younger ages and to offer up a girl to these boys with those types of clothes isn't helpful for the boys or the girls who dress like that.

I wish to ask these parents. "Do you want your daughter to be confused for a whore?" What a child wears and listens to on the radio effects him or her.

How can anybody confuse an 8yr old who's dressed trampy for being a whore? Unless, they are already sick in the head. I know I don't, they're just kids. But you have a good point. Parents should dress their kids right.

alorian
07-01-2006, 08:47 PM
Trust me, boys today are thinking about sex at younger ages

Erm, how young are you talking about?

disciple
07-01-2006, 09:18 PM
How can anybody confuse an 8yr old who's dressed trampy for being a whore? Unless, they are already sick in the head. I know I don't, they're just kids. But you have a good point. Parents should dress their kids right.
What about 8-year-olds that watch porn every day?

md4j
07-05-2006, 12:44 PM
How can anybody confuse an 8yr old who's dressed trampy for being a whore? Unless, they are already sick in the head. I know I don't, they're just kids. But you have a good point. Parents should dress their kids right.You are right, they are already sick in the head. Why give an "easy" target?

md4j
07-05-2006, 12:46 PM
Erm, how young are you talking about?Fifth grade is typical of what I've heard of.

NightCrawler
07-05-2006, 11:41 PM
I wonder how many sex-related threads will pop-up until the Law of the Land is quoted, specificially by the Admin or a mod.

dawn of light
07-06-2006, 05:38 AM
I don't think this thread is meant to discuss sex specifically. It seems to me the discussion is more centered on parenting.